Healing After Heartbreak
Dear Soul Sister,
As you read these words, know that they are written for you, from a place of deep understanding and shared experience. Heartbreak is a journey that many of us walk, a path that can feel lonely and overwhelming. But remember, you are not walking it alone. I am writing to remind you that every end is also a new beginning. “The end” is a road that can lead to profound healing and self-discovery. There is a part of you that is navigating the aftermath of a love lost, searching for a way to mend a heart that feels irreparably broken….and I am speaking directly to that part of you right now.
Being in love, in a partnership, feels amazing when it’s amazing, doesn’t it? The world seems brighter and lighter, and everything is right. You know what I’m talking about lol that relationship that has every happy love song on the radio feeling like it was written just for you. But when that relationship ends, it might feel like colors have faded, and those songs turn into reminders of what was lost. I've been there, too. I remember the ache, the longing, and the feeling of being utterly confused. And honestly, angry!
And those are all characteristics of grief. It’s important for you to know that it's okay to grieve that relationship and that person’s role in your life during that time. So, first and foremost, please give yourself permission to grieve. Your feelings are not just valid; they are necessary. Mourning that season is an essential part of healing. However, while you’re in this space of grief, remember that heartbreak is not just an end. It's the first step on a journey towards a deeper understanding of yourself and your capacity for love.
Through my own journey, I’ve learned that the end of a relationship is not a reflection of my worth. Trust me when I say: It took time, tears, and a lot of inner work! I eventually understood, though, that sometimes love ends not because we're unlovable or we are lacking, but because that chapter of our story has fulfilled its purpose. It's a hard pill to swallow, but it's also a liberating perspective.
Now, I want you to do something for you. Take a second to reflect on what this, or any, past relationship has taught you. What did it teach you about love, about what you seek in a partner, and about yourself? Maybe it showed you what you truly value in a partner, or maybe it showed you areas in yourself that need more work or grace, even. Every relationship, no matter how it ends, comes with lessons. Cherish these lessons; they're the building blocks of your growth.
Healing from heartbreak isn't just about moving on from the past; it's about growing towards new beginnings. It's about rediscovering who you are outside of a relationship, redefining your happiness, and realizing that you are complete ALL on your own. This journey is about developing self-love, which is a concept we often overlook. But, loving yourself is the foundation of all healthy relationships.
As you start to heal, you'll notice a shift. You'll begin to understand that being alone doesn't mean being lonely. You'll start to enjoy your own company, find joy in your independence, and appreciate the quiet moments of solitude. This is the essence of healing… finding peace within yourself.
I want you to remember that heartbreak, like all things in life, is temporary. The pain you feel today will not last forever. The tears you shed today are watering the seeds of your growth. There will come a day when you'll think back on this time and realize how much stronger, wiser, and more resilient you've become. You'll smile because you made it through, and your heart, once shattered, is now filled with a love that starts from within.
So, take this time to heal, to grow, and to find love in the deepest parts of yourself. Your journey is NOT over; it’s just taking a new, exciting, and beautiful direction.
Love Always,
Coach Lori